In “The Subtle Art of not giving a f*ck”, author Mark Manson talks about our culture’s obsessive focus on unrealistically positive expectations.
While giving a fuck about more stuff is good for business, it is often bad for our mental health, because focusing on what is better or “the best” only reminds us what we lack.
How does this relate to hair and hair loss? When we fixate on the desire to have long, thick, beautiful hair, it reinforces the fact that we do not have that. Paradoxically, when we accept the situation that we’re currently in, it can actually turn into a positive experience. I know for a lot of us in this community, being open with our insecurities around hair loss has actually helped make us more confident.
But does accepting our current situations mean that we should be indifferent about our hair loss or not do anything to diagnose or treat it? Not necessarily. It just means being realistic about where we’re at, acknowledging our feelings about it, and getting more selective about the things that we give a fuck about.
Instead of giving a fuck about Jennifer’s “I just woke up like this” hair, the number of strands that you lost in the shower today, or that new hair serum that might make your hair look like Kim K’s, you reserve your fucks for things that are most “true and immediate and important” to you. This could mean seeking help from professionals and friends, weighing the pros and cons of viable treatments, working on your self-confidence with a therapist, or researching cosmetic solutions. It could also mean determining that your fucks are better spent on things other than your hair, and that’s cool too.
Me? I’m going to try to add fewer fucks to my writing.
